Gratitude 2.

Congrats on being awesome

I'm currently reading a book called 'NutureShock-New Thinking About Children'.  I always gets the best book recommends from Jordan when it comes to child development, so I was excited when she recommended this one after the incident with Willis and the birthday party.

While I'm only a chapter in, I think it's going to be a great book already.  Each chapter is divided into different subjects and the first one was already very applicable to my parenting.

The Inverse Power of Praise.

It had me thinking about what language I use to talk to my kids and I gotta say, it left with me with tools and the research to back it up on ways I can improve praise.  Without going into too much detail, I can summarize it by saying that when we say things like "You did great"  or  "You're so smart", we aren't helping our kids any.  In fact, kids who are praised that way are less likely to take chances and risks when learning.  Instead, the book suggests that you use tangible, measurable praise. Things like: "You were really great at hustling back to defend"  or  "Good work today when you saw that you were getting angry and took some quiet time instead of yelling at your brother".  In those cases, kids recognized areas that they could control and improve and thusly were more willing to take risks.

I wonder if it would work on my husband....Good work on that back rub, you really are great at making me relax and putting me to sleep...

Anyway, back to my deck and the birds and the coffee and the fresh air and the reading.

Life is good.


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