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Lessons learned in aging 1- my peeps

I think when my life is done and I have chance to look back on it, that one of the things that I will be most proud of other than my hot husband and my wonderful kids would be the friendships I've built.  Sara nailed it when she posted this on Instagram a couple weeks ago.

What I'm coming to realize is that these women will be by my side for a very long time; with friendships that has spanned almost 30 years, you kinda get to a point where these women become more like sisters.  They will be the ones who lift me up on the hard days and who stand along beside me during the celebrations.  And yes, we miss our Christy every day and wish we could see her more often, but anytime we're together, Christy will get random texts from us, drawing her into our conversations and the moment.  The other thing we were also very fortunate to have is all our kids are born around the same time (my Willis is the oldest -9 and Ben is the youngest -2) and we're now just seeing the little friendships that are being created between the little people.  Our kids refer to us as "aunties" and Koen even calls the boys his cousins.

Poor deadly, anyways?

I would hope. Nope, I would pray that my kids would develop the strong bonds with friends that I have been blessed with as everyone needs that safety net and support system in their lives.  I have a sisterhood and they are one of the biggest blessings in my life.

On Friday we went out to celebrate my birthday (which isn't for another week)  and because I had picked a resto that was more on the pricey side, I had requested no presents. I was surprised to be handed a gift bag and was reluctant to open it because dammit, why didn't they listen to me.  But to my surprise they did and I was surprised with instead one of the most thoughtful gifts I have ever received.  This one is going to go up on my list of things I would grab if my house was burning down.

Inside my "prescription" are little rolled up notes that each of them wrote.  Some are pictures, some are quotes, others are memories or very heartfelt messages that brought me to tears.

I experienced most of my teens with this girls, but went to a different high school so lucky for them, I don't have much photographic evidence.

I lived the twenty somethings with them as we settled down, got careers, got married and started having kids.

And now as we prepare to finish off our 30s, our kids are getting older and we're rediscovering that independence and time for ourselves.

I look forward to see what our 40s bring.  One thing I know, is that I will forever be grateful I get to grow old alongside these beauties.


  1. Happy birthday, spring baby!! Hope the year that follows is filled with Health and happiness

  2. Awesome!! Happy Birthday!! Like I've told you before, I'm envious of all you ladies that have so many friends. It wasn't in the cards for me. I'm lucky to have my husband when he likes me lol lol.

  3. Happy Birthday! Wishing you the best in the coming year XO


  4. Oh what a beautiful birthday gift! It is so nice when you have a friendship that survives all of the changes in life. I only have a handful of friends I can think that have been there for me through so many years, but they are the true friends and they are so precious :)

    Hope you have had a relaxing weekend and have a nice start to the week.

    Away From The Blue Blog

  5. Living on Cloud Nine10 April, 2017 00:47

    Beyond precious and priceless. One of my greatest regrets in life is that us Girls from high school did not stay close. I talk to my BFF from HS a few times a year but that's it. One of your best achievements dear D.

  6. I kind of trying to forget the text I got on Friday from you giggling gals. HA! Is it just me or are we improving with age? I feel very fortunate to have known you for 33 years and to call you my BFF.

  7. how special was that?

  8. Awww, this is so sweet, and that super thoughtful gift, oh my goodness. You have a great tribe surrounding you friend.

  9. What a blessing to have a group of amazing ladies! Friends are just the best!

  10. What an amazing gift. I have always admired your friendships - such a special group you have.

  11. What a wonderful gift! Way to go, Sara, Carmen, Christy, and Candace! Perfect way to celebrate Deena. You are such great friends!

  12. Happy early birthday!!! That is such a sweet and thoughtful present. I can tell the bond y'all share is pretty special.

  13. I love this. Bonne fête ma belle. ❤❤❤❤❤

  14. Lifelong friends are the best. I have a group of girls I've been friends with since high school, I don't know what I would do without them! Happy early birthday!!

    Pumps and Push-Ups

  15. bahahahahah. I"m the lucky one.

  16. I would totally hang out with you

  17. HOpe you have a great week too!

  18. How lucky you are to have such an amazing group of friends! Happy birthday to you!!

  19. That might be the coolest gift idea ever.

  20. You do seem to have such rich friendships. And you make friends in every aspect of your life. I look forward to following along as you and your friends move into forties...but surely not for some years in the future!

  21. THE most important thing in life is relationships! You are very rich with them my friend!


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