30 something- Jyl

“It was the best of time, it was the worst of times”…man, that Snooki sure says some wise things. My 30s have been filled with amazing ups and crazy downs.  If I had to pick one word to describe what my 30s are all about, I would choose “discovery”.  With the birth of both of my children happening in this blessed decade, I have discovered how far one’s heart can truly be stretched. I’ve discovered the real meaning of patience and gratitude.  I have re-discovered my imagination and passion for creativity.

Pregnancy with my firstborn was the beginning of some of the worst lows in my life. I was saddled with ante-partum depression, which turned into part-partum depression, complete with some psychotic episodes.  I also live with high anxiety, as well as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, all brought about from those lovely pregnancy hormones, which ultimately altered the nature of my brain.  I have discovered that my husband is one unbelievably patient man. I have discovered that just because I take meds, it doesn’t mean I am a failure.  I have discovered what it means to literally be “out of my mind”.  I have discovered I am stronger than I ever thought possible, that depression lies and that those dark times will always pass.

My 30s have also been a discovery with regards to my career.  I am educated, and have worked, as a teacher, but I have found that my true passion lies within sales and entrepreneurialism.  I love the idea of being my own boss and having my level of success be dependent only on myself…not on bosses, supervisors or co-workers.  My vision for my self-made career is limited only by my creativity and, thankfully, I consider myself to be very creative J

30 something- Carmen S

This is what I've come to believe as a stay at home mom:
“I think I can understand that feeling about a housewife’s work being like that of Sisyphus (In Greek Mythology: As a punishment for his trickery, King Sisyphus was made to roll a huge boulder up a steep hill. Before he could reach the top, however, the massive stone would always roll back down, forcing him to begin again). But it is surely in reality the most important work in the world. What do ships, railways, miners, cars, government etc. exist for except that people may be fed, warmed, and safe in their own homes? As Dr. Johnson said, ‘To be happy at home is the end of all human endeavour’… So your job is the one for which all others exist…” (Letters of C. S.  Lewis, pg 447, 1988 ed.)

30 something - Carmen H

Life in my 30s- 
-bandaids/runny noses/COFFEE/toys/snacktime/never ending laundry/yogapants/twins/errands/cleaning/COFFEE/playdates/toddler/groceries/romance/casual jobs/suppertime/bedtime/WINE

This pretty much sums it up: "You were given this life because you are strong enough to live it"

30 something- Jessica

What is 30?

30 is putting lotion on your neck as well as your face.
30 is running a ½ marathon for the first time.
30 is falling in love with myself and treating myself accordingly.
30 is wearing comfort and not settling for less.
30 is pride in being one of the oldest on a team.
30 is injuries lasting a little longer than they used to.
30 is hitting one out of the park for the first time in 15 years.
30 is drinking wine and fine dining.
30 is the reflection of self and a journey towards betterment.
30 is learning to go out without make-up on.
30 is rejoicing in the patience of finding the perfect match.
30 is admiring smile wrinkles.
Most of all,
30 is understanding that I know less than I thought I knew in my 20s !

30 something- Sara

I'm finding that being in my 30's is kind of freeing.  I'm no longer self conscious about petty things. I'm happy to be in the front at Zumba class cause I don't care how ridiculous I look and it doesn't matter what everyone else is doing on a Saturday night cause I'm happy doing what I want to do.  The people in my life are people that I choose to be around. I'm living the life I dreamed of in my 20's and while it's not as carefree as it once was, I wouldn't change a thing.

Summer read 9

Matched  by Ally Condie was my 9th book this summer.  This was a quick read, teenage sci-fi style.  It made me think of Divergent, the Giver and Unwind with it's own original ideas. It's the first book of the trilogy but I'm unsure if I'll read the others.  I didn't leave me curious or missing the characters when I'm done, however I did really like the idea of the book.  It was good, but not my favourite.  When I read Divergent, couldn't wait to get to the second and now that the 3rd is coming out in the fall, I will definitely be rereading the series. (Mostly because I've forgotten everything).  I guess that's the difference between a good book and an outstanding book for me.  The great ones, I want to reread.  The good ones leave me satisfied but not really longing for more.
Have a great weekend!

30 something- Monique

I am looking forward to this decade of life.  I feel that 30 is perceived as old enough to have some relevant experience, yet young enough to have new ideas - and plenty of years to carry them out.  In my teens and 20's I spent a lot of time trying to figure out what I want to do "when I grow up". Now I realize that being able to grow, change and adapt is part of the fun, and I hope that will continue to evolve for the rest of my life.  Everyone's experiences of "being 30" will be different, and developing respect for the significance and beauty of your (and others) ability to choose what we do with our lives is powerful.

30 something- Liz

The day I turned 30 I knew it was going to be a totally different chapter of my life. I was 7 months pregnant with my first baby and was nervous and excited to be a mommy. Most of my 20s was spent dreaming and planning what my 30s would be like, so I was ready!! 

When Carter was born, it changed who I was. I guess it wasn't just Carter or even being a mom. I have my struggles and days when I feel like I am doing a shitty job, but I feel so blessed to have had the journey that has led me to where I am now. My grandmother just passed away and that has caused me to walk down memory lane. My childhood memories, people that have been a part of my life, influences, decisions and ultimately, growth. Never before in my life have I been as confident, assertive, connected, happy and content as in my 30s. I do have to say that I am a bit nervous about getting closer to 40 though. Having said that, I feel as though my 30s has been about raising my babies and now that they are getting older I am looking forward to being able to do things like going to the movies and concerts as a family, get pedicures with my daughter, etc. 
So here's to 30 somethings everywhere! May God grant us all a life full of blessings. 

30 something- Abbie

"Quand la peau de ma vie sera creusée de routes et de traces et de peines et de rires et de doutes, alors je demanderai juste encore une minute."
-Carla Bruni

My name's Abbie and I HAPPILY joined the ranks of 30 somethings this January. As a definite newbie, I see this post as an opportunity to discuss what I am most looking forward to in the upcoming decade.

The 20s are a happy disaster. Am I right? I don't know about you, but in my early 20s, I made enough terrible relational choices, dealt with enough personal insecurities, and wasted enough money and time as I blundered around post-secondary education to make me anxious to not waste any more time EVER!  It also made me realize how many choices we have and how many hats we can wear as grown ups. There are so many facets to explore that make us who we are. That feeling propelled me to throw myself into my passions like my faith, travelling, and languages and to develop new passions like teaching, biking, hiking, and running.

Somehow, I’ve arrived at thirty with an incredible man as my husband, a beautiful brand new daughter, and a teaching career that I am excited to grow into.  I consciously choose to be surrounded by amazing friends and family that lift me up, while other less healthy relationships have faded to the periphery.  I want to celebrate the awesome mix of parts that make up who I have become and where I am going.

To me, my thirties are the perfect balance between being young enough to have the time and energy to spend with the people I love, while having the awareness of how important and valuable those relationships are. I look forward to the time to enjoy and continue to grow in the foundations that were established in my disastrous 20s, through trial and error, hard work, and God’s grace. My hats now include friend, daughter, sister, wife, mom, teacher, and athlete. I have passions to explore, people to get to know, and confidence to enjoy both.

What an amazing place to begin.

30 something- Kim

Life in my 30's.
I love that I am finally out of my 20's. The lessons learned will forever be a reminder of how much I have grown, who I want to become and in what direction I would  like my life to go. The biggest thing I walked out with from my 20's is: to stay young at heart!!! I continue to look forward to raising my daughter and growing up together. I have a new list of exciting travel destinations I hope to visit in the future. Along with a few more goals in terms of keeping my self healthy and strong. Our family has expanded, a new relationship in my life has formed and I can hardly wait to see where this journey takes us. Reflecting on my past I’m totally comfortable in my 30's and I truly believe that things happen for a reason and one should always follow her heart.

Summer reads 7&8

I finished these books awhile ago and have gotten behind in my postings with our 30 something series.  I thought I better cover a couple reviews as I'm starting Read #11 tonight.  So here it goes....

#7  Talk before Sleep (Elizabeth Berg)

Another great read
It made me feel sorry for women who don't have friends.  Everyone should have a good friend to hold on to through this crazy life.  You can share so much with your friends and it makes everything easier knowing you have a support system or reliable people to laugh with.

This book reminded me so much of the feelings I experienced when we lost Kelly- except we didn`t get to say goodbye to her and in the novel, the protagonist drops everything to be beside her friend in her last months. 
I remember a moment, days after Kelly died, I was in the ratty bathrobe talking on the phone to some guy while in the stinky furnace room at my mom and dads. That room always smelled of cat litter. But it was quiet. I remember crumbling to the ground, sobbing- maybe it was the first time I broke down- I remember how rough the robe felt on me and my hair being up in a towel.  Kyla came and put her arms around me and just hugged me until I could stop the uncontrollable sobs.
That's what this book felt like:  A good friend, and the comfort you only know when you have a friend.

#8: The Secret Keeper by Kate Morton

This book was recommended by a reader and I`m so glad that she suggested it- I LOVED it!  It was mysterious and intriguing and had me going to very end.  I was drawn into the characters and loved the way that she developed the plot.  I'm not even going to give you more details because it is that good and I wouldn't want to wreck it- that is all.

Have a fantastic weekend!

30 something- Janelle

For someone who doesn't make a big deal out of birthdays, turning 30 is exciting. I know who I am, I know what I want out of life and for the most part, I’ve figured out how to get there.

30 something- Lea

“The afternoon knows what the morning never suspected”

        Robert Frost

30 something: Jody

The Dirty 30s….
 I actually was very glad to turn 30. I remember being so “done” with my 20s and all the uncertainty that being 20 something brought. I felt closer to becoming the person I was meant to be by turning 30. However, despite being an official adult for 12 years… I don’t think I really felt like a real adult until I had my first baby at 32. I now have 3 kiddos and I am slowly getting prepared to see my 30s from a rear view mirror so to speak… I just turned 38 and I have to say, the 30s have been fast and furious but so awesome.
 I got a great job teaching in Duck Lake, had 3 crazy, beautiful, boisterous boys, said sweet prayers to two souls I miscarried, bought a house, sold a house, built a house, supported my mom through her short but amazing bout with the big “C”, drank a few bottles of vino to make it all happen, shared a tonne of laughs and tears with my nearest and dearest, loved and cried with a dear friend as she so courageously has dealt with the loss of her second child, watched family members and friends find their way through this crazy life, had a knee surgery that has allowed me the freedom and strength to step on a treadmill for a portion of the day to “escape” back to the athlete that lives deeply imbedded in my soul… and in the end, I have to say that what I have learned in my 30s is to take a deep breath, forgive yourself, love your faults because lots of those said faults make you love, laugh and enjoy your life more than your strengths do at times.
I have learned that I am a people pleaser and that’s ok, I love my family (sometimes too much) but that’s okay and I treasure my friends. I am still a work in progress but I am working at figuring it all out…often with a nice red :)

30 something- Jordan

I love being 33. Maybe that's not saying much, since I remember loving being 12 . . .17. . . 19. . . 25. . . 28 - Actually I pretty much have loved every age I've been! But 33 is pretty darn good.

One of the best parts about 33, over any part of my 20s, is the stability in my life. My husband. My job. My permanent residence. I am so over having my eyes peeled for a potential mate and wondering where I should move to so that I could find a suitable job - that was so 24! I also like the confidence I am gaining in my 30s. I know way more about myself today than I ever have before. Twenty year old Jordan had no idea she was introverted, a writer, a runner or a banana. I watched this Rachel Ray where they talked about body shapes. Twenty year old Jordan thought she was the curvy pear - all bootilicious. Actually so did 32 year old Jordan. Turns out I am a banana! Wait, maybe I was a bootilicious 20 year old, but somewhere along the lines I lost my booty? Hmmm. . . Happy to be 33. . . Right?!

I am more health conscious now than I was in my 20s. I am in better cardiovascular shape and am more aware of what I am putting into my body. I want to run around after my kids until they have kids of their own and then I want to run around with their kids. I have become more aware in my 30s that this won't happen unless I put in the work.

I lost my son, Tripp, when I was 31. This event has made me a much more reflective person and drove me to make my 30's about becoming a better person. I know that self improvement can be a full time job, so I try to read, write and have discussions with friends and family to help myself become a more authentic me. I also realized not long after Tripp's death that one of my strongest beliefs is that connecting with other people is one of the most important things we were put on this earth to do. At 33 I do a much better job at remembering birthdays, celebrating births, and acknowledging deaths than I ever did in my 20s. I often shake my head when I think back to my 20s and realize how many connections I missed making with people because I thought I didn't know them well enough to reach out and acknowledge the event they were going through in their lives. This doesn't make me perfect. I will forever be a work in progress.

By far the best part of my 30s are my 3 boys. Calder is 4, Tripp would be 2, and Boone is 4.5 months. The love I feel for them is greater than anything I could have ever imagined. This is could be said by any mom I know. Sounds a bit cliche, but if the shoe fits.  

I love my life at 33. 

30 something- Carly

I think my thirties will be my best decade of life because currently I have everything I've wanted in life which is a happy and healthy family. Now it's time to enjoy and create memories.

30 something- Bridget

Why I love my thirties : It is a time of knowing who I am and having full acceptance and appreciation of the person I’ve become. It is a time of love, friendship and family.

30 something- Sarah

“Time and tide wait for no man, but time always stands still for a woman of thirty." - Robert Frost

Although I’ve only been 30 for a short time, I love the fact that I have everything in this world that I need and want – an amazing husband, my sweet baby boy, a fabulous mom, the best of friends and family, my loyal pet, a home that I love, and the career I envisioned – and ‘wise’ enough to enjoy and appreciate what I have.  I just hope my thirties don’t go as fast as my twenties!

30 something- Elaina

I’m excited to just be starting my 30’s.  I have two beautiful boys, I’m on maternity leave with a full time job in Saskatoon to come back to, and I just completed my Masters in Education.  I look forward to accomplishing many things in my thirties and taking advantage of my youth and energy.  Both my mother and mother in law both turned 60 this year, and neither of them could believe how quickly time really does go by.  I’ve made a promise to myself to embrace all the challenges and opportunities ahead and really enjoy every second with my kids and husband.  I want to stop worrying about the little things and what others think and just try to be the best person I can be and make the most out of this decade.

 “At the age of twenty, we don’t care what the world thinks of us; at thirty, we worry about what it is thinking of us; at forty, we discover that it wasn’t thinking of us at all. –Anonymous

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