3 purple lies

Lessons learned.

I spent a lot of the day yesterday reflecting on how much my life has changed since Kelly's death 10 years ago and I can't help but think that the majority of these changes were brought on because she left us and I was forced to ask questions and reevaluate my priorities.  You see, 10 years ago was a pivotal time in my life.  I had just convocated for University with my Ed degree and was subbing before starting my career as a teacher, back at my alma mater.  I was single and just kinda floating around, not sure where I was going to end up or what I wanted.
And then she left us and my whole world was rocked.  I can't help but think my angel helped to guide me in becoming a better person.  She was a brilliant teacher and I strived to be like her.  She had a great relationship and fiancĂ© and later that year I'd meet my match; she helped me set my bar high. Because of her and everything that was lost that day, I have since pushed myself to make the most of my life.  Sure, I've failed along the way, but that's the only way you learn, so I'm cool with that.  Here are a couple lessons I've picked up:
  • To not take myself seriously and to be able to laugh at myself.
  • The relationship with my family needs to be treasured and nurtured. 
  • Don't put up with shit.  Say something! Don't just stand by and let injustice happen.
  • Love my friends just like my family.  True friends shine in the worst of situations.
  • Sleep is a necessity.  Go to bed early, because the night you try to sneak an 11 pm bedtime is the morning Lucia will decide 4:45 is a suitable hour to wake up. Like today. Oy.
  • An easy way to hide fatigue is by getting dolled up.  Look good, feel good.
  • God is good despite all the bad that happens.  Focus on the good.
  • Blaming others will get you nowhere.
  • The importance of being able to say no once in awhile.  Don't take on too much, it just exhausts you.
  • Do only the things that make you happy. 
  • Nap.
  • Enjoy the beauty that surrounds you.  A coffee on the deck in the morning sunshine can put it all into perspective.
  • Find something to believe in, but at the same time continue to question your beliefs, it's the only way you'll grow.
  • Make time for your marriage.
  • Love yourself.
That is all for today, I need a nap and then I'll start working on my daddy files in celebration of the great men in our lives.
Stay tuned......