Raising kids

Raising kids is stressful.
Raising kids keeps you on your toes.
Raising kids can be heart breaking, heart wrenching,  or heart warming.
I guess no one really ever said it was going to be easy.
And what sucks is that there are no guarantees.
Health and happiness can change in an instant.
It all comes down to how you cope.

At the doctor's today she asked if I had any concerns with Lucia.
Well, she's not quite gaining tons of weight, she's a small little chick, I said.
She eats, she's active and most importantly, she's happy.  Be confidant, said my doctor.
Know that you are doing your best.

Really, I'm not too concerned, I know that kids catch up in the end.
I have many friends who have small kids too and they're perfectly fine.
But still, in the back of your mind, you worry.
It's just that I know and I've seen that there are no guarantees in my life.

Except for one: unconditional love.
Because I know that regardless what happens in life, my kids will be loved.
Whether they are sick, unhappy, in an ugly place or completely fine and loving life.
They will be loved and they will know it.
I think that's important.

One of my girlfriends had a baby right out of university, within a year of getting married.
She was the only one I knew at that stage in life.
We were still young, it was her first baby in a new marriage.
Noah was born with Down Syndrome.
But they managed.
And I'll never forget when she found out she was expecting her second and was given the chance to have that test done to find out if numero two would also have Down Syndrome.
She refused.
Because no matter what, that baby would be loved.

That's what I'm talking about.
Life is going to throw you curveballs, all you need to do is be confidant.
Choke up, grab on to people for support.
Keep your eye on the ball, don't let troubles consume you.
Because if you have that incessant need and ability to love a child, then you, my friend, will smack that ball out of the park every. single. time.

Amen.

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